Handling rejections is one of the toughest things to handle in life. You may get rejected by your dream institution or dream job but you must learn not to give up. You must stand up and keep on going.
Getting rejections is part of life. It’s hard for some to accept at first but slowly (and surely), we must learn to move forward. We feel sad, hurt and devastated upon hearing the words:
We apologize but we have seen a more competitive person fit for this. We are giving you a chance to still look for something that is more fit for your skills.
Moving forward after getting rejected is really a tough thing to do. From relationships, one may drown himself or herself in thoughts or in ice cream (literally). Sobbing over a past lover is the usual ammo in this kind. Crying and lamenting over it is usually the first thing we do when we want to step forward.
Back in high school, the talk of where you will go to in college was one big roller coaster ride. Others seem to pursue their passion while others were consumed by the thought of profit or income. In addition to that, grades were somehow the basis of getting rewarded or punished.
As I have read a post on Amazing Daily Life, it mentioned having your foundations on a solid rock. Then and there, I realized that I may have been doing some things the other way around.
I was so in love with music all those years that I wanted to pursue it but with the influence of the people around me, I took a degree in business. They said that profit in the music department would be scarce. Lately, I realized that anything creative (either painting or music or so) in this country is not quite supported by most. Most would think that you’ll just become a struggling artist if you continue going that path. I agree on that statement.
Eventually, I rejected the idea of pursuing music for profit.
I tried pursuing and courting my dream institution but in the end, I got rejected. I lamented for two (2) days, sobbing and crying my heart out. Then, I realized I wouldn’t want to get stuck in that abyss where all I feel is the negative things. See, hear and feel all those pessimism.
Struggles to pick one’s self up was there. It felt like a typhoon came over and blew up almost all the optimism that one had.
As people would usually say:
If one door closes, another one opens. And if that door does not open, maybe it’s the window.
I tweaked it a little bit to suit the current emotions.
Hence, I must strengthen myself up to face those battles.
Realizations and Other Thoughts
Here, I’ll be sharing my personal realizations about getting rejected:
- To be able to move forward, you should be able to accept your flaws (also mistakes) and work your way with it. We’re imperfect human beings and we can never be perfect.
- Once you have accepted your flaws, you should be thinking on how you can improve yourself and be a better person. You may even create a list to help you guide yourself into successfully making yourself better.
- Little by little, you are going to start moving forward. There are a lot of opportunities out there that is better than the one you wish for. Maybe, getting rejected is the way that the universe is telling us that that is not for you.
Basically, those are three (3) steps that I somehow figured would be worth sharing. These may not be applicable to most but surely, it could help you as well.